Have you ever heard anyone say, “I don’t know who I am anymore”? Identity is a how we view ourselves and perhaps how we think other people see us. When we lose our identity and sense of self, we are likely to seek our sense of self-worth from others and from things. Our sense of value and self-worth then becomes dependent on external factors such as someone’s opinion, our physical appearance, success, money, and even fame. As a result, we seek reassurance and praise from others and from “things” to feel okay about ourselves. In reality, our emotional well-being depends on how we feel and how we define ourselves; fortunately, God gives us our true identity not our frustrations, worries, and past mistakes.
How do you ‘lose’ your identity?
Losing your identity can be a long process, or it can also happen suddenly following a major life event. It may follow changes in the home, loss of a job, loss of a role that once defined you, etc. In fact, it can go all the way to your childhood. Parents first convey to their children their identity and worthiness. If this did not take place, it leaves a hole in their heart resulting in a crushed spirit. Such loss of identity can result in allowing anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, loss of self-confidence, social anxiety, isolation, and self-pity. These loses can threaten your ability to connect with other people and cause you not to fulfill your life purpose.
A time of reflection:
To restore your true identity, take time to think and respond, “How do you see yourself?” “How do think the Lord sees you?” Are you more than a wife, mother, employee? The way you define yourself can be insightful as to how the enemy has legal right to steal your uniqueness. John 10:10, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” The enemy is listening to your words. Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Negative words give him permission to move in and to steal your identity. By recognizing these negative feelings and thoughts, you can identify where you’ve given him permission and recover what’s been stolen.
True identity and purpose can be restored:
To restore true identity and purpose, pray this prayer:
“Father, forgive me for agreeing with the lies of the enemy. Those words have damaged my identity and stolen my purpose. I renounce any agreement I’ve ever made with his lies and decree, “No more, in Jesus’ Name”! I bless myself with your promises in Ephesians 1:3-14, “I am blessed with every spiritual blessing; I have been chosen, adopted, redeemed, forgiven, graced, and unconditionally loved and accepted. I am pure, blameless and forgiven. I have received the hope of spending eternity with God and fulfilling my purpose.” Thank you, Father, I receive and thank you for my new identity found in Christ.
Your true identity leads to your destiny:
“He has saved you and called you to a holy life—not because of anything you have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given to you in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time,” 2 Timothy 1:9. Because you are chosen by God, your identity came from God and is found in your relationship with Christ. Make it a priority to spend time reading His Word and praying His promises. God has called you out of darkness of the past into His marvelous light for a rewarding future. It’s time for you to stand up and be who God says you are. Let the devil know who you are in Christ. Anytime he tries to attack you with His lies, stand confidently and say, “Don’t lie to me; I’m identified with Christ! “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!” Philippians 4:13.