Have you ever felt sorry for yourself? Or maybe you’ve felt like a victim of your circumstances and you just want to give up? Everyone goes through periods in their life where things don’t go their way…. divorce, losing a job, being passed over for a promotion. The list is endless; it’s part of life. It’s difficult to feel positive and upbeat after experiencing disappointment. Events like these make it easy to get stuck and to feel sorry for yourself. This negative thinking trap is not a healthy place to dwell. If you stay here too long, it can adversely affect your purpose in life, your relationship with family, and your connection with God.
Feeling sorry for yourself is actually self-pity! In www.dictionary.com, self-pity is defined as “pity for oneself, especially a self-indulgent attitude concerning one’s own difficulties, hardships, etc.” It is negative thinking that opens the door for the enemy to enter and to control your thought life. That negative spirit that will bind you to the pain of your past and not allow you to step into your future.
If you continue to rehearse the past, you have unknowingly agreed with a lie that it is hopeless. Once in agreement, the enemy has authority to use self-pity to build strongholds; such as; depression, unforgiveness, bitterness, self-hatred, insecurity, fear, and rejection.
The Bible provides us with examples of people who dealt with self-pity. After experiencing great success on Mount Carmel, Elijah fell into self-pity and wanted to die when Jezebel threatened to take his life. When Moses carried the burden of the murmuring Israelites, he said it was too heavy and felt inadequate and depressed. Jonah preferred to die rather than see the people of Nineveh spared. Just as God met all of their need in times of despair, God will meet your need and will lay out the path He has designed specifically for you.
You have a responsibility. The most effective way to destroy self-pity, is to acknowledge that you’ve agreed with the lie of hopelessness and then to take control of negative thoughts, 2 Corinthians 10:4-6, “take every thought captive”. Give your thoughts to God. 1 Peter 5:7, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you”. Changing focus opens a heart to receive God’s promise, Philippians 4:13 “You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you,” With God’s help, you can change your thoughts and receive the promises of God for a joyful, successful future.
Today is a new day and God will give you strength to be an overcomer. To help you overcome self-pity and restore hope for your future, pray this prayer:
Father God, I ask that you forgive me for walking in self-pity and for holding any unforgiveness toward myself or others. I repent and renounce any agreement I’ve made with my past. I receive your forgiveness, your power, and your love. I decree you are Lord of my life. I receive Psalm 93:1-5 “You, Lord reign in my life. Yes, I am established; I shall never be moved.”
I thank you that I am a covenant child and choose to follow your promises in my life. I receive your love and accept who You created me to be to fulfill my purpose. I choose to stop replaying the past and I take responsibility for my future by casting down negative thoughts or replaying my past hurts. I bless myself with the promise in Revelation 12:11, I overcome negative thoughts because of the blood of the Jesus and because of the word of my testimony.” Thank you for filing me with your spirit and for removing all barriers that have separated me from you. I choose to receive and to fulfill my God ordained purpose in Jesus Name. Amen.
By: Pastor Susan Dyer