If you can’t see it, you can’t fix it!
The following article was submitted by a former supermodel, Kim Alexis, who encourages women everywhere to become their best self.
“I have recently been saying this phrase a lot. “If you can’t see it, you can’t fix it.” I have had numerous talks with friends and family about this subject. Sometimes I get frustrated with family or my friends. Things that seem so clear to me just fly right over other people’s heads. I get frustrated and can’t understand why they just don’t see.
I started to focus on people that I thought needed to change or had asked my opinion. I watched their reactions when I would lay out a 1, 2, 3 approach. (That is identifying the problem and then steps to take to fix it.) Many times, I would see that my words went right over their heads and/or they had a blank look on their faces or even start talking about a whole other subject altogether, like I hadn’t even spoken. I was amazed!
How often have you listened to other people talk, but inside you are thinking of a whole other subject? How many times do you watch others talk because they like to hear themselves talk but they really didn’t tell you anything new or different? I believe that they don’t see that others are not being moved by their words.
I find that I am becoming a minimalist both in words and opinions. I have even stopped myself from trying to correct someone else as I know they just won’t hear me or see my side of things. Why waste words? I now find that I like to sit back and observe and watch what others do because many times, it is just being busy talking instead of being productive.
The older I get, the more I realize that there is a time and a place to accomplish everything. Some others don’t get this and try to push something to happen when it isn’t the right time yet. I believe that this is a sign of immaturity or selfishness.
I have white counters in my kitchen. Like most of you, I clean my counters at least once a day. It is hard to go to bed with dirty counters, right? With white counters, it is easy to see if you have gotten all of the crumbs and spills up, right? Well, I don’t know about where you live and what direction your kitchen faces but here in Arizona, in the late afternoon, the sun comes in at just the right angle for me to see that what I thought was clean really wasn’t. My counters have all sorts of hair and dust that I didn’t see before the light was shed on it! That setting afternoon sun highlights all sorts of things that I missed. I didn’t see it, so I couldn’t clean it up.
Ask God to shed light on your situations. Look at things from another angle. Ask Him if you should be doing something, talking to others, or just patiently sitting back and waiting for the right moment. Ask what it is that you need to see next for a fresh perspective!
About Kim: After her modeling career and during her television and speaking engagements, Kim started to write. She wrote an eBook with an inside look at being discovered in the modeling world. She also wrote two fictional books using her knowledge of the modeling world to create mystery novels; Beauty to Die For and With a Little Luck. She also co-wrote a book on not compromising in today’s culture, A Model for a Better Future. She didn’t stop there as she had learned so much from the crazy diets, how to train for eight marathons which inspired her to write four eBooks touching on health problems and concerns. You may connect with Kim by following her on:
- Website: http://www.kimAlexis.com
- Instagram: the_kimalexis
- Facebook: @thekimalexis